Monday, January 20, 2014

How to Get Your Sociopath Back: Step Two - Pull Yourself Together

Hello my dear little E's. I hope you are doing well on your journey of No Contact with your S.

Let's be real, you're probably a hot mess right now, which leads me to the next step in the process of winning the affection of your S.

You have got to get it together. Literally.

First things first, get your ass in the shower and out of your pajamas. Fix your hair, get your makeup to look perfect (men: shave that damn beard or at least clean up your neck), wear something you know you look good in, not just today, but everyday during this journey.

See, doesn't that feel better just to think about brushing that three days worth of morning breath and getting into a hot shower?

Here's a couple of things I want you to work on over the next few days:

1. Get a new haircut (or hair color) if you can afford it.
If you can't afford it, come up with a new hairstyle. You have plenty of free time without your S, so scour pinterest and come up with some great ideas and get to work!

2. Get yourself a journal that will be specific to this journey of reclaiming your S.

  • On the first page, I want you to write down at least 10 of your good qualities. You can have more, but you must have at least 10. (examples: I am an amazing artist/musician; I have really pretty blue eyes, etc) I want you to be proud of who you are. Them read it out loud to yourself everyday, there is a lot of power in your words. You need confidence and your S will be more attracted to a confident and freshly showered version of you.
  • Next, write down as much of your story with your S as you can. How it all started, when you knew you loved him/her, the good and bad things that happened throughout the course of your relationship, what he/she did to hurt you, what your S said to you repeatedly. All of it. Chronicle it as much as possible. Then when you are done, read it back to yourself, out loud.
  • Whenever you feel angry, sad, hopeless, put it in your journal. Your friends might be sick to death of hearing you talk about how depressed and lonely you are. Put it in the book. And as mentioned before, read it out loud to yourself afterward.
Again, no contact with your S. None. Now get started.

7 comments:

  1. So what's happening with your S since your last post?

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    1. If he's a true S, it'll be "same shit, different day". As alluring as a S can be, it'll all be downhill. I've won a S back numerous times, and it always ends badly. The best thing to do is pretend they've died and simply move on.

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    1. If he's a true S, it'll be "same shit, different day". As alluring as a S can be, it'll all be downhill. I've won a S back numerous times, and it always ends badly. The best thing to do is pretend they've died and simply move on.

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  3. The blogger Empath has been MIA for nearly a year. Unfortunately I'm drawing the conclusion things have not gone well. :-(

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  4. I don't know if getting a sociopath back in your life is such a good idea...

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  5. WHy do I want to get someone back who acted like I was the love of his life for 4 years and discarded overnight by talking shit behind my back to his sister and mother- then turned into a different man overnight, fuck him. Karma will smack him in the face one day, even in his next life or another realm. HE has zero ability to feel, he is empty and only looks human. It's been 6 months no contact and he hasn't made any attempt to contact me, He can rot. I adored him. It was a true betrayal of my soul. Never experienced anything like this..

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